PPP112: Down in Front! (and other concert etiquette rules)

No distractions – no talking or fidgeting. You don’t want to distract the performer or those who came specifically to hear them play. If you are holding a program or your music, keep it still and quiet. 

At the beginning of my spring recital, I tell my families to silence any cell phones, electronic devices, and small children. It’s a corny joke but it’s still a good reminder. Put your phone on silent, and be considerate of those around you if you have small children. Sit toward the back of the room, close to the aisle. Be prepared to make a quick and quiet exit if your child starts to cause a distraction.

Normally, during formal concerts, the performers should not leave at all and audience members should only exit or enter between performances while the audience is applauding. In the case of an unhappy child, however, get out quickly with as little distraction as possible.

Give the performer your attention – this is closely related to the no distractions rule but slightly different. Not talking and paying attention are not exactly the same thing. Listen with your eyes. Look at the performer. Pay attention to the music they are making. Make mental notes of compliments you can give them after the recital.

Applaud politely when their piece is finished – this has two aims: 

1. Even if the performer completely bombed their song, you still give them applause for the courage they exhibited just walking to the piano.  

2. Applauding politely means that you simply clap your hands. Piano Parents, when your son or daughter scores points in the big game, you are welcome to hoot and holler, maybe even whistle. When they finish performing their piece, you simply clap your hands. No need for loud whistles in the concert hall.

When it’s your turn to play – walk calmly and confidently to the piano and follow the instructions your teacher has given you. Take your time adjusting the bench and making sure you are comfortable at the piano. This is your moment. Don’t rush into your music. Give yourself time to mentally prepare for the correct placement of your hands and the correct tempo of your piece. Don’t let your nerves trick you into playing faster than your fingers have practiced.

Keep your mind engaged. Mentally prepare for each note and phrase. Be in control of how your hands move on the piano keys, not surprised that they found the correct notes to play.

When your piece is finished, gently place your hands in your lap. This is the audience’s cue to clap. Once the audience begins to clap, stand and face them and give them a bow. This is the performer’s way of saying, “Thank you for listening to me.” The applause of the audience is like a compliment telling you, “Way to go!” “You did a great job!”. Any compliment should be followed by a good thank you.

When your part of the program is done, you are still not done – keep listening to the other performers. Give them your full attention. Piano parent, just because your kid has played doesn’t mean you should stop listening. Notice how the more advanced students handle themselves. Listen to their music, are these pieces your child will want to play in the future? Appreciate the hours of practice this performance demonstrates.